Whether you are exploring gender, you want to support a loved one or be an ally, or you have heard about LGBT folks on the news, your curiosity about non-binary, genderqueer and transgender identities suggests that you are a caring and open-minded person. This book is for nonbinary folks and for allies - to read, to get validation and talking points, and to pass this book on to your neighbors, your community, your acquaintances, and anyone who would like to better understand and empathize with others. After reading, you will have a deeper understanding about: The difference between gender and pronouns - Why nonbinary is seemingly so visible now - How to navigate a nonbinary person coming out to you - Simple action steps to take as an ally - Where to find community of like-minded people - The benefits of defying black and white thinking in your own life This easy read dives deftly into complex, nuanced topics without judgment, shaming, or hundreds of pages to work through. If you want to have more meaningful conversations with those in your life and embrace this great experiment of being human, scroll up and click the buy button. ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ I bought three "I LOVE IT SO MUCH! I want to buy many many copies and always have it on hand to give to people because it's exactly what I want everyone to know. Honestly, there are some books out there by now, but Nonbinary For Beginners is by far the best. This book really deserves to be in everyone's hands." -Librarian ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ This book will change a lot of lives "In contrast to a lot of 'gender studies' books that get so dense and wordy and theoretical that they are almost incomprehensible, this was concise and made everything clear." -Graham, Senior Program Manager ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ A much-needed resource "I have been recommending this book to my patients who are trying to understand their children better." -Clinical Psychologist ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ I am now proud to be an ally "I loved it. It answered questions I didn't even know I had, and in an understanding way. I've been insisting that my friends buy this book." -Parent When I came out, I looked all over for something that I could hand people to tell them, this is me. It's not so scary and different. I'm still me. I'm just a person. I heard the same questions being asked about nonbinary people every day. I thought, wouldn't it be nice if we all had some baseline of knowledge, so that we could... have a different conversation? Wouldn't it be nice to stop talking about nonbinary being a trend, unnatural, something that should be controlled? Wouldn't it be nice if other people might have something to share with people they loved, the way that I'd wished I'd had? I couldn't find anything, so I wrote something- for nonbinary people to hand to their loved ones and say "here, read this." Since my book was published, I've been invited on podcasts to guest speak, advising corporations on how to be more inclusive, and doing workshops for allies. And here's what people have told me: "My family is speaking to me again. They read this and they get it now." "My partner is being so much more supportive. I can't believe it." "I feel seen and held and happy on a topic that usually triggers me and makes me upset." And the most common one... "More people need to read this." Readers have bought multiple paperback copies at a time: to give to their local library, to pass around centers in town, and to give to family members. "Please read this. Please understand." Perhaps the most surprising twist is that the people who seem to benefit most profoundly from this book are not nonbinary and would not have even considered themselves allies. These are folks who feel uncomfortable with the word non-binary, would never dream of using "they" as a singular pronoun, and eschew anything involving rainbows. They message me, too, and tell me excitedly how they are sharing this book with others, so that people in their lives can understand just like they do now. If you do not know the first thing about being an ally or what this whole "nonbinary thing" is, you are so welcome here. Inclusivity and open-mindedness help everyone - regardless of gender. Not everyone wants that. Not everyone wants to learn and open their hearts. But here you are. If you are still reading this, you at least have curiosity - and that is a beautiful start. With deep compassion for exactly where you are at, Ocean Ocean is a 30something (proud millennial, but sending love, always, to other generations) explorer of this beautiful planet and the internal landscapes of human beings. Ocean is trans; nonbinary; an inclusivity consultant; an artist; an enthusiast of animals, plants and sunrises; and a friend you have not yet met. Pronouns: they/she/he/none.