An emotionally intelligent guide to setting boundaries with clarity, confidence, and kindness… This powerful how-to approach to boundaries provides simple, effective guidance to help you know what you need, be confident that your needs matter, and get your needs met while having healthier, happier relationships. Plus, you’ll learn why saying no means saying yes to what you really want. Good boundaries are essential for healthy relationships. We need them to thrive in our friendships, partnerships, and work life. We need them so we can be more fully ourselves. We also need them to be adaptable. And, we often struggle with knowing how to set boundaries – say no, or state what we need – without stepping on someone else’s toes or risking a relationship. That uncertainty can stop us from setting boundaries where we need them or cause us to sound harsher than we’d like. One of the most influential teachers in the field of Focusing, Ann Weiser Cornell, shares a remarkably compassionate guide to setting the boundaries you need while creating healthy, happy relationships. If you’d like to set boundaries with kindness and compassion, this book is for you. Filled with best practices from Focusing, a research-based, body-informed therapeutic technique for creating powerful life change, 21 Days to Better Boundaries helps you identify what you need, know that your needs matter (a lot), and explore kind ways you can communicate your needs to others. "...such a simple book to read that will change its readers' lives." - Kristi Elizabeth, San Francisco Book Review "...an essential self-help book... that will accompany me on my journey to better boundaries for the weeks to come but, more importantly, for years to come. I am grateful to the author for this gradual, engaging, and lively guide. I highly and wholeheartedly recommend it." -Marie-Hélène Fasquel for Readers' Favorite "...the results can be transformative! I recommend this guide to readers who seek more open and fulfilling personal connections while remaining true to their values and selfworth." -Courtnee Turner Hoyle for Readers' Favorite "Read this book today to get the power to put your happiness first, but still maintain great relationships with the people around you." - Luwi Nyakansaila for Readers' Favorite Ann Weiser Cornell created Inner Relationship Focusing with her long-time colleague, Barbara McGavin, to help people learn to listen compassionately to all the inner voices, including the self-blaming ones.    For over 35 years now, Ann's been teaching this practical, revolutionary process to people all over the world. With 21 Days to Better Boundaries , you get the benefit of Ann's expertise and the chance to practice a clear way of setting boundaries with her gentle, compassionate guidance.   Ann is the author of Focusing in Clinical Practice: The Essence of Change , The Power of Focusing , and The Radical Acceptance of Everything . Today she is internationally recognized as one of the leading innovators and theoreticians of Focusing.